The fertile void

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A few weeks after Transifex was acquired in 2022, once the celebration period faded, people (and my own inner voice) kept asking me the exact same question:<br>"Great! What’s next?"<br>Some people asked it directly, others implied it, and others, when I said "I'm not sure what's next, we'll see" looked like that wasn’t quite the answer they were hoping for. There was this need for a "next big thing" that hung in the air.<br>Slightly disappointed John LithgowAnd the truth is, a part of me had also internalized this need long before anyone said it out loud.<br>My gut reaction was to call the period after the acquisition a "sabbatical for some months". I needed this void to be defined somehow, to have a shape, an exit. For sure it needed timeboxing, lest it become a "years long" period — or, god forbid, a permanent place.<br>Having a well-defined "next stage" is such a normal and expected stance that it almost passes as innocent. We have romanticized this posture so deeply that some treat it as part of the very definition of being human. There is that old Greek image, “ἄνθρωπος ἄνω θρώσκω”: the human as the creature who looks upward, who aims higher, who rises.<br>It is a beautiful image. It also quietly smuggles a demand that a healthy life must always be ascending.<br>Once a writer publishes a meaningful book, they should already know the plot of the next one (which of course needs to be an even bigger success). Before even finishing celebrating a win, our mind is already on the next adventure. Heck, before even finishing the level you start thinking about the exit to the next one.<br>This habit carries a very specific and risky assumption: that a life remains healthy only if it stays organized around a forward, ascending motion. And "forward" is defined in relation to the world, to others, it's the Δ(speed), relative to externally-facing achievement-based factors.<br>Stage exiting and leveling up<br>In the period after the Transifex acquisition, I deliberately resisted dwelling on answering the "What's next?" question.<br>It wasn't easy. What makes it even harder is when you spend so much effort on one big project like a startup. You become it, your coordinates in the world are relative to that project. "Who are you"? "I'm an entrepreneur, a CEO, a tech lead, a doctor, a father of two teenagers" — something relative to the massive project you started.<br>We are shaped to behave relative to external achievement ratings from a very young age. School is all about grades, which the system strives to make not only judged by external factors, but also be objective, absolute, unquestionable.<br>Laziness is a word people use too casually, often to shame states we do not understand. If I'm not being seen in motion, who am I seen as? Am I being lazy? If there is no immediate next mountain, what story do I tell to others and to myself?<br>Slow moments can be very hard to accept, especially if you’ve spent years being driven, ambitious, effective, admired. They can be boring, uncomfortable, even frightening. Feeling weird in these moments does not mean something has gone wrong, but simply that we had forgotten we were not designed to live in a permanent sprint.<br>The world has trained us to confuse expansion with aliveness.<br>More projects.<br>More success and money.<br>More visibility and promotions.<br>More momentum.<br>More goals.<br>Being a high-achiever makes you often afraid that if you stop, you'll lose your edge forever. What happens when I am no longer being mirrored back to myself as impressive, productive, or on my way somewhere? No longer receiving that reflected worth can become really threatening.<br>On Being Still<br>Success, hard work, ambition are all beautiful things that drive the world forward, create innovation and amazing startups. In these moments, your energy naturally turns outward, toward building, proving, stretching, creating, expanding.<br>I’ve lived inside those seasons where hard work is all you can think of, and I don’t reject them at all. There are periods in life where intense focus, long hours, discipline, and striving feel deeply true. I understand that life, I've been there. I respect and admire it.<br>The older I get, the less obvious it seems to me that we should always be maximizing. The same person can be highly driven in one phase and deeply uninterested in climbing in another. There are periods where we don't need (or maybe want) to be ambitious, where nothing is asking to be chased.<br>We have "slow" moments (whether it's an afternoon, an August, a sabbatical, or a multi-year rest) where we are privileged to deeply appreciate family, love, presence, a slower day, an unstructured afternoon, a conversation, raising a child, a meal, or carelessly walking our dog. Not because we are failing to remain ambitious in that moment — ambition is just quiet in those moments and we are able to understand meaning differently then.<br>Some body and mind states are not there to produce. They are there to restore proportion.<br>Those...