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When a Gift Becomes a Pain
Sometimes life’s hardest moments become our greatest teachers.
Ray || Content Creator
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Photo by Jon Tyson on Unsplash<br>What way is right?
Why do I still get upset?<br>Am I not supposed to be numb to the lies?<br>To remember or not to remember?<br>Is it a curse or a blessing?<br>Maybe it’s good to hold on to such bad memories<br>I forgive, but I definitely don’t forget<br>Push back the hurt and move forward<br>Keep being kind and don’t expect anything in return<br>I call bullshit cuz I recall patterns<br>All goes good for a period, great moments until<br>Back to square 1, they revert back to old tendencies<br>Flashbacks pop up, and you go still for what feels like minutes<br>But in actuality its been mere seconds, and now more bad thoughts form<br>Water under the bridge, although the situation was not addressed correctly<br>Probably will happen again in a few months, weeks, hell, days!<br>It’s an overrated process, am I right?<br>Being observant, seeing whole sequences play out<br>Others there have their own opinion,<br>They see it differently, hear it differently, or think it differently<br>Communication fails often,<br>Yet, I repeatedly see 5/6 ways we converse being misused<br>With a side of context, I may add, missing in plain sight<br>Three sides to a story, but one has the truth<br>Yet nuance is dead, and empathy is lost<br>Who gains when right is proven right,<br>But wrong was allowed for too long?<br>How can the resentment be let go of?<br>Therapy? Counseling? Use “Emotional Regulation”?<br>Are they emotional bandages or tools to contain the hurt, anger, and pain?<br>What happens if the agony is past the threshold I can withstand?<br>Or am I wrong?<br>Maybe stay kind, but cut off the ones that can’t be accountable…<br>Maybe stay kind, but stop giving them multiple chances…<br>Maybe stay kind, but close off the ones who cause mental strain…<br>Maybe stay kind, but don’t allow repeat behaviors…<br>Then your brain can compartmentalize at ease<br>Don’t blame it for being able to be your recorder<br>It’s its job!<br>What am I actually saying lol, I’m just rambling. Just another loop, I suppose, until I truly figure it out.
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