Attachment style quiz Page 1 of 1Attachment style quiz

When someone important to you becomes distant, what is your first reaction?

When someone important to you becomes distant, what is your first reaction?A<br>I feel anxious and try to reconnect quickly

I tell myself it's fine and focus on another things

I feel resentment. One part of me wants to pull away and other part wants to reach them and ask them what's going on

I notice it, but I don’t panic and give it some space

How do you usually experience closeness in relationships?

How do you usually experience closeness in relationships?A<br>I want a lot of closeness and reassurance

Too much closeness can feel suffocating

I want closeness but it can also feel uncomfortable or confusing

I enjoy closeness but also feel okay being independent

When conflict happens, you tend to:

When conflict happens, you tend to:A<br>Worry about losing the person and try to fix things quickly

Withdraw or shut down emotionally

Feel intense emotions and struggle to respond clearly

Stay engaged and try to resolve things calmly

How much do you think about your relationships?

How much do you think about your relationships?A<br>A lot, they can take over my thoughts

Not too much, I prefer to stay focused on my own life

It varies, sometimes intensely, sometimes I disconnect

A balanced amount, depending on what’s happening

When someone shows strong emotions toward you, you:

When someone shows strong emotions toward you, you:A<br>Feel responsible and want to respond quickly

Feel uncomfortable and may pull back

Feel unsure how to respond, it can be overwhelming

Can respond while staying grounded

What best describes your past relationships?

What best describes your past relationships?A<br>Intense, emotional, sometimes unstable

Distant or not very emotionally deep

Confusing, with mixed signals and ups and downs

Generally stable, even if not perfect

When someone doesn’t reply for a while, you tend to think:

When someone doesn’t reply for a while, you tend to think:A<br>Something is wrong or I did something

They’re probably just busy

I go back and forth between worry and detachment

I assume a neutral explanation and wait

If you had to describe your relationship with the person who cared for you most growing up using 3 to 5 words, what words would you choose? Can you share a brief memory or example that shows why you chose it this person?

When you were upset, scared, hurt, or needed comfort as a child, what usually happened? Please describe one or two specific situations if you can.

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